OP: Sorry you aren't enjoying the game.
It has some advantages.
1. Easily modded. (just by googling, I enabled AI's ability to reserve and view distances up to 750 meters.
2. Mods can add the Warhammer and Marauder. Phoenix Hawk is on the way, according to the author.
3. Procedural missions have a wide range of difficulties.
4. Latest series of patches added granular difficulty settings, so there is a setting for everyone. I'm still working on my pieces of 8 ironman run, which I just finished the campaign and I'm now out tooling around the Taurian Concordat.
Maybe put the game down for a month then give it a another try.
Cheers,