I very much welcome the attempt. But you don't change a stereotype by copying stereotyped dialogue and then insisting the character was right and the audience is wrong.
I find it funny that I have to bring this up on a website dedicated to a war-based universe, but:
It was stereotyped MILITARY dialogue. "You're not in the chain of command, buddy, so kindly see yourself out." If it had been bellowed out angrily in a deep baritone, then no one would have a problem with it. But because a woman said it, giving a uniquely feminine slightly sarcastic, slightly condescending tone... "Aren't you just ADORABLE, thinking that just because Leia tolerated you I will, especially after the stunt you pulled at the dreadnought!"
And the thing is, she was right and he was wrong. There was a plan all along. He should have trusted the chain'o'command, of which he is a part of at the squadron level - yes, in Leia's org chart there was a special box next to her name with his in it because he was HER special asset, but in Holdo's he's just a squadron leader without a fighter.
On top of that, Holdo has a serious problem to deal with: The enemy fleet is able to follow her through hyperspace. Is there a traitor on board? Did someone, trusted by Leia, plant a tracker? NEVER tell a plan to one person more than it has to be told to.
When you take a look at the 1 star reviews on Amazon essentially none of them make it through without complaining about feminism and by your reference of sitcom genre's I think it's probably best to end the discussion here.
Good gods, you're not wrong. I hate stereotyping, but the 1-star reviews for TLJ make it WAY too easy.
And the worst part is,
there are problems with the movie. The casino trip was a completely useless waste of celluloid, cutting it entirely and redubbing Poe with, "The slicer is waiting for you in the shuttle we stole" would lose nothing. What's with the Macguffin of 'being able to track them' that's never resolved? Why is Poe's mutiny unpunished, instead treating one of the
most severe crimes available in the military as a cute little diversion?
As far as Rey and the Dark Side goes...
It can't give her what she wants. It stems from selfishness, anger, fear, and greed, and no amount of that will give her a father, a mother, a REASON they abandoned her beyond just 'not wanting her any more'.